Friday, October 31, 2014

This Mom's Survival Guide to being a SAHM

When I first started out as a mom I was still employed. 
For working professionals the first few months are chaos.
You're always used to routine.Getting up going to work ,everything has a schedule.
When you become a stay at home mom.The amount of time left in your hand overwhelms you.
Being a Stay at home mom makes you an Organizer,manager and worker.
Juggling all the balls and keeping them in the air does take a toll.
I wont even lie to you by telling all of mine are in the air.
But never worry busy mom,grace will always come through.

So what worked for me:
1.First things First - Quiet Time with God:
A warrior does not go to battle without an Armour.
Its the same for mom,a mom without her quiet time with god is looking for a long day.
I've seen this time and again,the days I've skipped my quiet time,my whole day is thrown into chaos.It takes me a minute to remember .I've forgotten my Armour :)
New Moms: These are great quick devotionals for your busy days :Devotions for new moms - Ruth Tuttle Conrad, Meditations for New Moms - Sandra Drescher Lehman

2.A healthy mind is a product of a healthy body:
Before my son,I had zero fitness sense.
Pregnancy and childbirth fuels the need for fitness.
I wont say I m a fitness enthusiastic ,I try.
Use Nap times,there will always be interrupted days,but don't give up,keep pushing.

3.Set goals:
We are our own manager and appraiser,so we set our own targets.
I will workout these many times this year.
I will complete this task which I've procrastinated this year.
At the end of all the 'I wills' add through grace.
Buy self development books,Invest in yourself and hone your talents. 

4.Being Organized:
I know some of us may be free style while others organized.For me being organized saves my sanity.
I Found this book 'The Good Wife's Guide: Embracing Your Role as a Help Meet 'by Darlene Schacht and Candace Cameron Bure.
I m not a clean freak,but this book was great eye opener,about getting the house and myself organized and to learn scheduling.
When my son was still an infant and I was feeding.I learnt to schedule my chores.
So I wouldn't get overwhelmed with a single day of household chores.
Eg.friday laundry day
Monday living room and dinning room clean up.
Also with little children be ready to reorganize yourself,my schedule has changed every 2-3 months with every milestone my son reached.
If you aren't able to keep up with your schedule,don't freak out,we didn't learn to ride a bicycle in a day,so it is with everything.Give yourself grace sweet moms.Its okay,One day at a time towards success.

5.Stay connected with other stay at home moms for encouragement.
I will be honest in admitting the first few days ,you do miss your coffee buddies at work,you miss adult connections.For the most part I'm an introverted person,I always had one close friend and was a part of a smaller circle. I did despair if I'd ever make a connection.Never worry mom,grace will come through.

Being a SAHM has opened out doors,I've made friends with people cross culturally,or people I've only said hi previously. You make friends at the play ground with the mom you've never known,as you both run behind your toddlers. You learn from your mom friends mommy essentials(a band aid),another catches your child as he throws himself in the air.Older Mom friends that are great encouragers and go to advisors.And you realize how blessed you are.

Every mom you meet could be a potential friend,so go ahead and take the first step in extending your hand.This was one of the soundest advice I ever received 'Be the friend you want to have' and go with the flow.

6.Stay active in church:
Being a part of church activities and serving where you can always gives a sense of fulfillment.
Obviously with young children,we may not be able to serve as much as we'd like to,its important to realize ,we have bigger calling to mother our children first.And they will be little only for a little while now,sooner than we realize,time will fly and they'd be alongside us serving :)

7.Being Ready:
The best way to be prepared for the day is by being ready.
I love to be ready first thing in the morning,an early shower,out of my night clothes and a filling breakfast.
Night clothes tend to make me lazy,sluggish and there goes my day down the drain.
Being early helps me to get some work done,I definitely don't work good after dark ;).
If you're the night owl,do not despair my friend,we all work best where we shine best :)

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Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Easy Dessert: Paruppu/Dhal Payasam

This is definitely comfort food for me.Love this easy to make effortless dessert.

1 cup Moong Dhal
3 Cups Water
1/2 to 1 Cup Milk

5-10 Cashews
10-15 slivered almonds pieces
5-10 raisins
3 tsp Ghee/clarified butter
1 tsp cardamom Powder 
1/4 tsp salt

Jaggery syrup - Melt 4-5 large cubes of Jaggery blocks in a cup of  boiling water over stove top.(Click Here to See Jaggery)

1.In a pressure cooker brown fry the Dhal
2.Now add Water and cardamom Powder bring to a boil.
3.Put on the lid,once steam arrives ,add the weight and cook the Dhal for 20 minutes on low flame/until the Dhal is properly mashed.
4.Allow the steam to dissipate,remove the weight and open the lid.
5.Now on medium flame add milk ,salt  and jaggery syrup and bring to boil.Boil until you get the required consistency - must be semi solid.
6.In a separate vessel heat Ghee/clarified butter brown fry cashew and almonds,once they are done add raisins and fry for a minute 
Now add this mixture into the Dhal mixture..
You are ready to enjoy your dessert.

Monday, October 27, 2014

Alphabet Craft: B for Ball

Yet another easy breezy craft.

One of the easiest first words according to speech pathologists is the word 'Ball'.

Paper Plate
Any printed Sheet(cut into triangles to make the ball)
Any printed Sheet(cut into lines make it like a beach ball ) - optional
Alphabet Sticker B

1.We glued the the Triangles to the Plate  to form a Ball
2.Glued the Lines to give it the beach ball effect.
3.Added the Alphabet B sticker.

Friday, October 24, 2014

Mom Confidence: Where's my applause!

 Ever felt that way mom.I have !And I have heard it from other mom friends too.

Where's my applause!

We serve within the confines of 4 walls,singing ABC's tirelessly, reading that book for the nth time in a row and doing the mundane day in day out.In between all these we nurture a young soul and shower it with love.

There are no appraisals ,there are no you've done a great job pat,there are no materialistic incentives.

Our applause seems to be missing!

Hey moms,God loves service done in the secret.He loves prayer done within confines of four walls,then why would motherhood be any different.Our service will never be seen or never be heard before people but is perfectly trumpeting clearly before our god.

Service - an action done without expecting anything in return.

Yes ours is service! So give a pat on your shoulder. You are awesome mom!

To me the fruits of motherhood is much like Heaven.
It can never be seen right now,but its right around the corner.
I know and hope looking forward to the things I can't see.

Fellow mom, we toil and reach forward for the prize that can't be seen.
So don't lose hope ,don't lose heart.
We work for an audience of one,'GOD',who sees all our hard work.
Not a single thing goes unnoticed by him.
And our appraisal and applause comes from him.

This new song "He knows my Name" by  Francesca battistelli is so amazing it sums it up.

I don't need my name in lights
I'm famous in my Father's eyes
Make no mistake
He knows my name
I'm not living for applause
I'm already so adored
It's all His stage
He knows my name oh, oh,
He knows my name

I Corin 15:58
58 Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your labor is not in vain in the Lord.

My favorite quote of all

Interesting isn't it.When I first came across this quote,it did take me by surprise.I've always thought of service as service for the needy in under developed countries.I've never considered  service as the willingness to do the least /unprofitable things.

What we do for these little children may seem unimportant by human estimates,by financial successes but counts as everything to god :).

Be Strong Mom!Be brave!Be the revolution!


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Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Date Night Recipe:Chef Emeril Lagasse's Rosemary and Garlic Roast Lamb

My husband and I love Lamb.It truly is a delicacy.

I did this with the Lamb shoulders.And made Mashed Potatoes as side for this dish.
So cooking time was 30 minutes at 400 degrees and 30 minutes at 350 degrees.

Prep:20 min
Inactive:15 min
Cook:1 hr

4 pieces Lamb Shoulders (about 1 1/2 pounds)
1/8 cup fresh lemon juice
4 cloves garlic, minced
1 tablespoons chopped fresh rosemary leaves
1 tablespoon salt
2 teaspoons coarsely ground black pepper

1/4 cup chopped fresh herbs (combination of rosemary, chives, and parsley)
1/2 cups diced onions
1/2 cups chicken stock
1/4 cup red wine

Full Procedure:

For Full procedure Click Here

Monday, October 20, 2014

Alphabet Craft: A for Apple Tree

We begin  with the easy A for Apple :).Easy craft for the mommy who makes the preliminary work and the child who puts the work together.

Alternate teaching: Count the Apples :)

Green Paper(Tree top)
Yellow construction Paper(Tree Bark)
Red Paper(for Apple)
Alphabet Sticker

1.I already had the tree ready, Gluing The Green Tree top to the Yellow Bark.
2.Dash and me Stuck the alphabet A to the apple 
3.Glued the apple to the tree

Friday, October 17, 2014

Mom Confidence:Taking Pride in your appearance!

As moms,busy moms,we fall easily prey to appearance isn't everything.

A few days ago,my aunt and I were  talking about appearances.
To be honest my appearance quotient has significantly degraded since being mom.
My aunt promptly gave a perfect word of advise - 'Taking care of your appearance will make you health conscious'
Lately my wardrobe consists of sweat pants,sneakers and t shirts.And zero makeup.
To top it all of I had expired moisturizer in my purse!Who does that,Me obviously!I guess you can picture my degraded appearance quotient.

Later in the day I met an older mom friend of mine.She is a mom to a young elementary schooler who is an amazing mom and  truly an inspiration.She is always well dressed and very presentable.And we hit of on the same topic - mom appearances.
She narrated an incident,on how she took care of her appearance even after she had had her baby.She mentioned 'When people come to meet my new baby ,I need to look a happy mom,I've done a feat,I've delivered a baby!'.
And I thought Wow!
Her point hits home.I can't look drab.

'I m a mom,a happy mom,I needed to step up to look like one too!'

So do we need to get extra heavy with make up and sweat like crazy while we run behind our toddler !Hahahah ;)

If your like me so conscious of all the chemicals in your makeup,go easy on it.

The things you find on youtube is amazing !They have quick makeup for busy moms :)

This was my favorite youtube quick makeup tutorial,although I don't use all the products that this mom does.Click Here

So this is my customised list of bare essentials from the videos:moisturizer, mascara,gloss and blush.Easy.I love that mascara makes my eyes bright.

Also I found some cool Mom Fashion bloggers,I love that they lean towards affordable styles.Check out Mom Fashion Blogger Click Here,and Indian fashion blogger Click Here

These are just starters and helpful tips,but I believe in making our own style which suits our personality and wearing it confidently.#GOTEAMMOM

De cluttering your closet, helps in finding all your much needed outfits.I cleaned out 3 drawers to end up with only one full of stuff I could really use.I had pregnancy clothes,clothes I'd love to wear but would not happen in this century post pregnancy ;),clothes I kept just for sentimental reasons,sheesh.Dumped all of them into a cardboard box and put them into a closet.

I m still the sweat pant,sneaker and t shirt wearing mom,but being presentable makes me feel serene and confident.Although there are days I've run out with just my gloss on :D.I m still working on it.So if any of you guys run past me in the grocery store,don't mention that I did this post ;)

I'd love to hear your favorite products,your easy or fast ways of doing things :)

Word Of Caution for the wise:
Although Appearances help set first impressions they are not the final verdict giver.

Proverbs 31:30 (NKJV)
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.


(DISCLAIMER: This blog is not for profit. Image used above is the property of their respective companies unless stated otherwise. I do not claim ownership of this material. )